Just
because some of the sisters have their head covered, they think that the
requirement of Hijaab is fulfilled. They don’t
realize that wearing a Hijaab requires much more than
just covering your head.
Actually, if you think about it, Hijaab is the way
you talk…..the way you walk….the very way you carry yourself. In fact, Hijaab is an attitude in itself. Its a whole way of life.
Allaah says:
“And say to the believing women to lower their gazes, and to guard their
private parts, and not to display their beauty (zeenah)
except what is apparent of it, and to extend their headcoverings
(khimars) to cover their bosoms (jaybs),
and not to display their beauty except to their husbands, or their fathers, or
their husband's fathers, or their sons, or their husband's sons, or their
brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their womenfolk,
or what their right hands rule (slaves), or the followers from the men who do
not feel sexual desire, or the small children to whom the nakedness of women is
not apparent, and not to strike their feet (on the ground) so as to make known
what they hide of their adornments. And turn in repentance to Allah together, O
you believers, in order that you are successful.” (Surat-un-Nur:
31).
Here are some of the more common issues in light of this verse about the Hijaab.
Well, my head is
covered. What more do you want?
If you look carefully at the ayah, it clearly states that the head covers (khumur) should be drawn over the neck slits (juyoob). Khumur is the plural of
the Arabic word "khimar" which means a headcover. Juyoob is the plural
of the Arabic word "jaiyb", which refers to
the neck slit (of the dress).
Yet, some sisters just cover their head with something, and think they are
fulfilling the rights of Hijaab, although part of
their hair or body is showing, or their whole neck and chest area are exposed.
Actually, that was the way of the women of Jahilliyah.
Al-Qurtubi said: "Women in those days used to
cover their heads with the khimar, throwing its ends
upon their backs. This left the neck and the upper part of the chest bare,
along with the ears. Then Allah commanded them to cover those parts with the khimar."
So secure the scarf well around your face, covering your neck/chest area, and
keep those half sleeves and capri pants for your Mahrams
Sorry.…tight
jeans and short shirt just don’t cut it
You can’t wear tight jeans and a short shirt with a piece of cloth on your head
and think this is Hijaab. Nor can you wear anything
else that is tight, describing the shape of the body in any way, even if it is
long. The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi
wa Sallam) said:
"In later (generations) of my ummah there will
be women who will be dressed but naked. On top of their heads (what looks) like
camel humps. They will not enter into paradise or (even) get a smell of
it." (Muslim)
If
it is see-through, its NOT Hijaab
You CANNOT use chiffon or other see through material to cover your hair and
body. Everything should be covered and the color of the skin underneath should
not be visible.
The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi
wa Sallam) once received a
thick garment as a gift. He gave it to Osamah b. Zayd, who in turn gave it to his wife. When asked by the
Prophet why he did not wear it, Osamah indicated that
he gave it to his wife. The Prophet then said to Osamah
"ask her to use a "gholalah" under it
(the garment) for I fear that it (the garment) may describe the size of her
bones." (Ahmad, Abi-Dawood)
(The word gholalah in Arabic means a thick fabric
worn under the dress to prevent it from describing the shape of the body).
The
Hijaab shouldn’t attract attention
The dress should not be such that it attracts men's attention to the woman's
beauty. Allaah clearly states “not to display their
beauty (zeenah).” Yet, Subhaan
Allaah, some Hijaabi
sisters are dressed in such a way that they attract more attention to
themselves than they would if they didn’t wear Hijaab!!
How could such zeenah be concealed if the dress is
designed in a way that it attracts men's eyes to the woman? It beats the
purpose of Hijaab.
Allaah tells us: “And stay in your houses, and do not
display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance…” [al-Ahzaab:32]
What
about make-up and perfume???
Wearing make up is also part of the zeenah that Allaah orders us NOT to display. So if your head and body
are appropriately covered yet you are wearing bright red lipstick or dark
eyeliner such that people confuse between you and a raccoon….uh sorry, that’s
not Hijaab. And keep those nice fragrances for the
home, between you and your husband. That’s part of Hijaab
too, even if you are going to the Masjid. The Prophet
(Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: “Any woman who
puts on perfume and passes by people so that they can smell her fragrance, is
an adulteress.” (al-Nasaa’i, Tirmidhi:
hasan by Albaani)
Tinkling Jewelry and
Jingling bracelets
‘Loud’ and tinkling anything, be it jewelry, bracelets, clip-clopping shoes,
little bells on clothes, you name it, if it jingles or makes noise, it is
against the principles of Hijaab, because it attracts
attention to the one wearing it. That is what is meant when Allaah
orders us in the above verse…“not to strike their feet (on the ground) so as to
make known what they hide of their adornments.”
No
laughing, joking, or hanging out with non-Mahrams
Some sisters assume that since they are properly covered, its okay for them to
sit around and talk, laugh, joke, etc. with the men, but that’s not right, even
if he is ‘the Shaikh’. Allaah
says:". . . then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a
disease should be moved with desire, but speak in an honorable manner."
[al-Ahzaab:32]
So talk to them when there is a specific need, and in a manner that is not
necessarily rude, yet it is polite but firm.
Staring
at the brothers or ‘checking them out’ is NOT Hijaab
Allaah orders us to “lower your gaze” in the above
verse. Why? Because a single ‘look’ can say more than a thousand words. So, even
if you are properly covered, keep those eyes down, conduct yourself with ‘Hayaa’, and avoid ‘fitnah’.
‘Chatting’
on the internet/phone is not part of Hijaab, either
There is no such thing as “we’re just friends”. Talking to non-Mahrams is wrong even if it is through the internet or
telephone. There are too many stories of illegal relationships, fornications,
broken homes, extra-marital affairs and runaway brides to even mention. That is
why in Islam anything that leads to haraam is also haraam. Allaah says:
“Do not (even) come close to fornication, for it is an indecency, and its way
is evil.” (Surah Israa:32)
Be careful, even in
the way you walk
Remember, you are not a runway model displaying the latest fashion. Walk with
modesty and hayaa and you will be respected. The
Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi
wa Sallam) said:
“There are two types of the people of Hell that I have not seen yet….women who
are clothed yet naked, walking with an enticing gait…..” (Muslim).
Don’t
shake hands with non-Mahrams. Its part of Hijaab
It is not permissible to shake hands with a non-Mahram,
because the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi
wa Sallam) said: “For one
of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than to
touch a woman who is not permissible for him.” (at-Tabaraani
saheeh by al-Albaani).
And no, it is not rude to refuse to shake hands with non-Muslims. Simply
politely explain that its part of your religion and they are very
understanding.
Stay
away from the men’s areas
I see many sisters entering the Masjid from the men’s
entrance, or standing idle in the hallways or where there is a chance of
unnecessary mixing with the brothers. What for?
Don’t we have a separate entrance for ourselves? Why do you think Allaah ordained the Hijaab in the
first place? To avoid fitnah, by reducing temptation
and separating the genders.
“The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi
wa Sallam) said to the
women on his way out of the mosque when he saw men and women mixing together on
their way home: ‘Give way (i.e., walk to the sides) as it is not appropriate
for you to walk in the middle the road.’ Thereafter, women would walk so close
to the wall that their dresses would get caught on it.” (Abu Dawood)
Hijaab is also to conceal your sister
Although some sisters wear the Hijaab themselves,
they forget that they cannot talk about another sister and her beauty in front
of their own husbands, brothers, etc. Remember, part of your Hijaab is to cover your sisters ‘awrah’
as well.
The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi
wa Sallam) said: “No woman
should mix with a woman and describe her to her husband so that it is as if he
can see her.” (Muslim)
May
Allah guide us and bless us with the TRUE understanding of His Deen. Ameen.